With the holidays coming up and the “12 days of Christmas” right around the corner, it can be a hectic time for anyone. However, through all the busy shopping excursions and Seasons Greetings card sending it is important to take step back and give yourself some much needed gifts as well. Here at the 12 gifts you need to give yourself this season:

1) The Gift of Peace.

With cheer in the air and a New Year beginning soon, now is the perfect time to take a look back at the year, and grant yourself peace for any (and all) of the worries, fears, and anxieties that have been buzzing around in your mind. Take a deep breath, and invite peace into your heart. This is not always easy, but it is always necessary.


2) The Gift of Forgiveness.

Now is the perfect time to forgive whoever has harmed you, whether it was by accident or intentional. You had no control over how others act, you can only choose how you react. Choose to react in a bigger way by forgiving those who have done you wrong, and forgiving yourself for any regrets you have or mistakes you believe you had made. Just remember: You are exactly where you are intended to be at this moment. Embrace that fact, and keep moving forward.

3) The Gift of one Completely Unapologetic “Me Day.”

Just for one day, do whatever it is that you feel like doing. Even if you feel like doing nothing but binge watching your favorite movies. Put on your favorite slippers and watch those movies with pride. You deserve one day to do your own thing, and what better time to have a personal day than in the cold of December where you don’t really feel like going out anyway. Only caveat: That hot chocolate isn’t going to make itself. Darn.

4) The Gift of one Special Treat.

Whether you have been craving a pedicure or a new coat that is ridiculously pricey but still ridiculously cute, honor yourself and the progress you have made this year by giving yourself one special treat that you have wanted for a while. Then you’ll be able to shop for your loved ones with a refreshed mind-set, and possibly a rocking new jacket.


5) The Gift of Understanding.

While it is important to understand the needs of others, it is also important to understand the needs of ourselves. Don’t allow yourself to get hung up on the choices you have made in the past. Understand that at one point, those choices meant something to you. They are part of a bigger picture, one that will take you to awesome places if you let it.

6) The Gift of Trust.

The weather may be cold, but that doesn’t mean your heart should be. Allow yourself to open up and trust your loved ones. Trust your friends, trust yourself, and trust that God will never put you in a situation you are unable to handle.


7) The Gift of Optimism.

Just because the Winter is the darkest season, that doesn’t mean your outlook can’t be bright. Allow yourself to see the good things that are coming your way, and to be open to all the joy and the warmth around you. You owe it to yourself to believe that the future holds bright things for you (because it does.)


8) The Gift of Self-Love.

During this busy time many of us have thoughts about why we love others, including family members and friends. While this is certainly an admirable trait, it is also important that we reflect on why we love ourselves, and what makes us special. Remember: Just because someone else loves you that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t love yourself.

9) The Gift of Time with Friends.

During this highly family-oriented time it can be almost unavoidable to push our close friends to the wayside. Combat that urge by scheduling time with them. Make this time a priority, and even schedule a “Secret Santa” gift-giving event if you want to. Friends are one of the few things that can keep our stress levels down during this time, so use this time to make great memories that will last for years to come.

10) The Gift of Relaxation.

Set aside a twenty-minute time-frame each day during this time of year to do something relaxing that is just for you. A twenty minute bath or reading a good book for twenty minutes should do the trick. Having this twenty-minute time-frame to look forward to will help you stay calm during even the most stressful of holiday events.


11) The Gift of No-Shame.

This season let your motto be: “There is no shame to my game.” This means allow yourself to enjoy the holidays without guilt or resentment. If you want that extra cookie, eat that extra cookie. This is a time of enjoyment, so enjoy it with peace and no shame. Plus, you got the week after Christmas to focus on your New Year’s Resolution. This happens for a reason.


12- The Gift of Choosing Faith over Fear.

Have faith that any holiday related drama will pass, and that this hectic time will slow down shortly. Allow your faith in the brightness of your future and present to be greater than the fear of making past mistakes again. Also, have faith that even if you didn’t get everything you wanted on your “wish list,” you already have everything that you need, right now.

So give yourself these twelve gifts, and get ready for a beautiful, and much more peaceful, holiday season.