Dear Those Who Were Left,

Pause. TakeĀ  a breath. I can’t tell you that this feeling will go away quickly, but I can tell you something else that is much more valuable…

The person who has left you has given you a great gift.

This person has given you the ability to find out more about yourself in a way you would not have been open to beforehand. They have given you the freedom to explore new possibilities and gain a strength that you have not had before. I know it is one of the worst feelings in the world to feel that we have been left, especially if it was seemingly for another person, but unfortunately how long someone chooses to love you and stay with you will never be your choice. But you do have your own choice to make now…

You can choose to wallow, and choose to continue to be a victim…or you can choose to put your faith in yourself and in the bigger picture above your fear of rejection or betrayal. You do not have control over the actions of others, but you do have control over this much. I hope you make the right choice, because I have been there, and the first option does not get you very far. Trust me on this one.

So rise above your fear and your circumstances. Rise above and have faith that everything that happens, happens for a reason. Trust that you have this beautiful gift to discover, but only if you let it in. Allow your past to make you better, not bitter. And allow yourself to leave the nagging doubts and worries behind you. You won’t be sorry you did.

With love,

A girl who has been in your shoes.